Trauma & Negative Thoughts Will Create Your Physical Health, Here’s Ways to Change It

Imagine going through a lot of trauma in your life and allowing it to become your body and life. Let me tell you a story that maps the scars, the silent habits, and the small, stubborn ways trauma settles into daily living — and how I began to unlearn it.

My name is Megan. I grew up in a very religious family, as you’ve read in my previous blog posts. I carried a heavy load of generational trauma on top of religious fears and strict conditioning throughout my childhood. Then, as the 1990s unfolded, the food landscape shifted dramatically — more plastics in packaging, sugar added to everything, and a rise in industrial toxins. Those changes coincided with my family developing autoimmune issues, massive heart attacks, and a host of other chronic health problems; some relatives are still struggling with these conditions today. The physical decline led to severe depression for many of us and a reliance on multiple medications to get by. We endured a lot as kids

. My dad, the primary provider, was diagnosed with what we called “heart disease” in the late ’90s and underwent a quadruple bypass at just 39 years old . He was out of work for months, and during that time my sister faced serious health scares that took a heavy toll on the whole family. As years passed, we began losing extended family members to cancer. So many were diagnosed; they followed conventional treatments, sometimes stabilizing briefly, but often the disease returned and worsened. Some lived with cancer for years, but tragically every family member who battled cancer and relied solely on conventional medicine ultimately died.

My father — after all he went through to survive a quadruple bypass — later lost his life when his liver finally failed, allowing ammonia to build up in his brain. That buildup made him act as if he had dementia, though whenever they drained the fluids he would briefly return to something like his old self. Over time it became too expensive to keep him on the medications that were even causing his type 2 diabetes. It was a devastating cycle rooted in the failing liver. We tried to get him a transplant and even raised funds to support it, but then COVID arrived. My dad, who had not wanted to keep fighting, pushed hard to stay in the race for a transplant. Transplant centers made the COVID vaccine mandatory for all applicants, and despite his misgivings he consented to get the shot when options were running out. After that he slowly declined even more until he finally slipped into a coma from the severe ammonia buildup in his system. We lost him in September 2023, and the ache has lingered ever since.

Losing my dad and not being there as much during his final years because I was fighting for my own life has been incredibly hard. Once I was strong enough we made the effort to see each other, and after I moved away we visited monthly. The boys even spent the whole summer of 2023 with their grandpa, who has always been there for them.That time jolted me further into exploring different approaches to health and healing, and it helped me realize more clearly how the traumas we carry shape and influence our physical well-being. I had already been making changes since 2020 to become the healthiest version of myself I could be. Who knew that working through those traumas and difficult experiences would prove to be the thing that healed me more deeply than anything Western medicine alone could ever provide.

When we reflect on our situation, I could get stuck thinking, “Wow, I’ve been through so much—being gaslit by doctors ,I’m dying of Cancer, I lost my dad, woe is me.” I might start believing I’ll end up the same way. These thoughts create negative loops that harm the body; Your immune system automatically lowers its defenses, which lets illness take hold more easily.

I have had what I said in my first blog was “I’m Sick Of This Shit” moment. I’ve had many since that day. I hope I continue, until I am no longer of this existence.

Now I have such GOOD NEWS for you! It isn’t permanent. Guess what — you can change your life yourself. By healing your inner self, your emotional and mental well-being will shift, and your overall health will transform your whole life completely. I’ll give you a few clear, simple steps to get started.

Alright, I’m going to say this very clear. I am very blunt, so here it goes. It’s going to pack a punch, and that’s okay. I don’t mind being the one to tell you this: You are the primary reason you are where you are today! Your health reflects how you treat yourself every single day! When you repeatedly say negative things—about others, about yourself—your life and wellbeing will suffer for it. Think about who you want to be—are you actually moving toward that goal, or are you standing in your own way? You need to recognize, right now, that you are the biggest obstacle to your progress. When you’re struggling, ask yourself plainly: why are you blocking your own path? If you pause, be quiet, and really listen, you’ll hear the answer. You just need to accept that truth and act on it.

Now that we have that harsh truth out of the way, we need to give ourselves some genuine love and care. After all, we are the only ones who are always with ourselves, which means tending to our own well-being is not optional but essential.

We have started applying the 8 Laws of Health in our practices and are actively working on our nutrition, staying properly hydrated with clean water, exercising regularly, and getting outside for sunlight and fresh air. We’re finding motivation and making progress, yet many of us still feel stuck — and that’s a red flag. Please remember this: something negative is still being held onto. Is it a draining person or relationship? An unfulfilling job? Unresolved guilt or fear? We all need to do the inner work. Identifying those negatives, then changing and reframing them into a more positive outlook, will help you move through the stagnant areas of your life and regain forward momentum.

With inner work, reframing, journaling, and meditation are practices I — and millions of others in the self-help community — recommend. My therapist suggested them to me years ago, and I eventually came to see their value. However, because of traumas I experienced, I resisted journaling for a long time until I first did the emotional work to heal that specific wound, which then allowed me to return to journaling and keep growing in my inner work.

Meditation had an immense effect on me. Driving in my car for long periods helped my ADHD brain compartmentalize thoughts and start to understand my feelings without constant interruption. I was in my own world, taking action while my subconscious quietly rewired itself. I learned a few subliminal tricks by digging into research and relying on good old YouTube University. I also began buying audiobooks by Dr. Joe Dispenza and several different novels by Neville Goddard. The first one I listened to was Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself, which guided me deeply when my father passed. It gave me a different perspective and helped me process his death with greater clarity and a higher level of understanding.

Understand that what you focus on shapes the reality you experience. If you fixate on a negative circumstance—saying, “I have cancer, I’m going to die”—your thoughts will steer you toward that outcome: you’ll endure stress, despair, and patterns that can hasten decline. Conversely, adopting a mindset of “I am healthy” and committing to steps—small, consistent actions toward better health- will produce an even more positive result. You are, in large part, the architect of your own mind; you influence what unfolds in your life. So yes, there is truth in “mind over matter.” Your thinking must be practical and informed: learn how to eat well, choose exercises that support your goals, and plan realistic progressions. When I lost mobility and strength, I started with baby steps—lifting my calves up and down repeatedly three times a day—until that simple movement built enough strength to attempt the next exercise. So take the mindset of learning to walk before we run. Build up those muscles so you can stand on your own. Those 8 Laws of Health are steps to make a Healthier you.

For trauma, staying stuck in your own mind and endlessly circling the what-ifs keeps you trapped. You need to get yourself out of your head and into the present moment. Directing your intention and energy into now will allow your body follow your mind.

For example: you might be a 37-year-old man who’s balding, overweight, and carrying heavy anger. Meditating daily and declaring realistic, affirmative statements about the reality you want will move you toward that reality. But it’s not only about desire — you must also act in alignment with that vision. Combine meditation with healthy habits: apply the eight laws of health alongside your inner work and watch what changes.

If you struggle, that’s exactly why health coaches and supportive communities exist — to help you notice what you’re missing. That’s also why I write this blog: I spot perspectives others often overlook, and part of my purpose is to help people see new paths and move forward with clearer intention.

Understand I struggled for a very long time. if you look through my social media. You can see the sick I carried for so long. I struggled mentally and physically. However once, I started doing writing prompts to help me work through feelings of not trusting as well as faith. I did inner work, which is where a lot of my health issues became resolved.

I was keeping myself stuck in those medical cycles that so many of us have been through. From eating processed, fake food to being gaslighted by doctors, to taking medications that just led to more medications and more problems. Do you see the same patterns repeating here? Breaking the bad habits and replacing them with positive choices is the only way your reality will truly shift for the better.